We call five important reasons not to be a workaholic and to fight for your rest with all our might.
Constant overwork, lack of time for important, beloved and pleasant things, lack of sleep, irritability, a clogged schedule - one of the main problems of adults. Chronic fatigue, which used to be a sign of a responsible and decent person and a socially approved workaholic, is no longer considered a positive state to be proud of. Not only our physical health, but also the psychological background suffers from constant fatigue: after long-term chronic fatigue, one often does not want just anything, not even to rest.
Health under attack
The first thing to think about, plunging into the workflow, is your own health. Workaholism is primarily associated with sleep disorders: workaholics are chronically under-asleep, not only not getting the norm at seven or eight hours, but often without approaching the lower bar for five to six hours.
Sleep problems are a direct path to anxiety disorders, panic, and more tangible effects in the short period: migraines, increased pressure, decreased immunity, pain in the neck and lower back. Workaholics also often prefer a sedentary lifestyle, spending a lot of time sitting - posture is basically unnatural for a person with a large number of clamps. Of course, we play sports to compensate for the lack of movement, but the hours in the gym cannot be replaced by the emotional result of a walk and physical exertion into pleasure, for which the workaholics often have no time. Workaholics are not only those people who die in Korea and Japan in the workplace from recycling, but also those who live on a 24/7 schedule, work 10–12 hours a day and completely identify their personality with working successes and results.
The overrun of physical forces is directly related to the shortened lifespan and the surrendering body at maturity - now this problem seems still far and insignificant, but every year the effects of processing will become more and more noticeable: people who are very tired get older, tend to gain excess weight and overeat.
Bad cognitive abilities
Worsening memory, nervousness, suffering communication skills, inhibition in simple tasks, inability to concentrate is also a result of stress and overwork. With chronic fatigue, the brain works much worse. If the stories of death from a heart attack seem like horror stories to you, read a study that confirms that sleep deprivation (the eternal companion of any workaholic) causes damage to the brain, comparable to a permanent hangover or the use of hard drugs. It is impossible to expect quick decision-making, accurate forecasting, high analytical skills and rapid reaction from a heroin addict — a socially approved workaholism only looks like healthy and responsible behavior from the outside. In fact, every day of increased fatigue, the workaholic makes an even greater effort to remain in the ranks.
Distorted perspective and lost goals
Chronic fatigue affects the mood and the desire to plan for the future: in a situation where the day and the week are presented as a busy diary with endless duties, it is very difficult not only to see the movement vector and long-term goals, but also to highlight your own needs among the list of obligations to others.
What meetings do you really need, and which ones do you go by inertia? Which family activities are justified, and which ones take time? Why do you support one relationship and not others? Chronic fatigue rests on inertia and regular typical decisions and affects our mood: in a depressed, upset, and tired state, it is easier to convince us, win over, impose something, or drop our self-esteem.
The problem of chronic fatigue is often that most of our activities are important for us and it is difficult to give up something. Do not stay home after a busy day? Do not deny the children an interesting weekend, if the week did not have time for that? Do not transfer the same meeting with friends, if you have not seen for months? And do not miss the same useless work meeting, if all go? It’s very difficult to consider your own desires and priorities, to admit to yourself the senselessness of some external tasks for you and the tiredness of the chosen path.
A constantly tired person is often not very happy, and therefore vulnerable, irritable and in difficult relations with self-esteem.
If the main task is to reach the next ghostly weekend, the end of the week, a short vacation, there are very few reasons for optimism, and relations with people require only additional resources. For people with chronic fatigue, pressing affairs — primarily workers, family and business responsibilities — take the most time and shift friendship, friendship, easy communication with colleagues, spontaneous leisure and new acquaintances to the periphery — in a word, social life, which is labeled “optional” “Because the main thing is supposedly the business of life, home and family.
Such a prioritization is fair not for all: many of us need both a new perspective and fresh air in daily life, which only communication and freedom of spontaneous actions can give to such an extent and volume. Yes, it is incredibly difficult to keep in touch with old acquaintances in a situation of chronic fatigue: meetings are often made out of hand, there is no time to remember important dates and say non-dull words, dive into the problems of another and keep him on a difficult path. In a word, overworked people are not the most attentive partners, colleagues and friends, most often focused on themselves, which may seem selfish to others. Worsening and dying relations in a situation where you are spinning like a squirrel in a wheel, another disadvantage of chronic fatigue, when personal emotional needs are sacrificed for notorious efficiency.
The consequence of the previous two points is the readiness to take on the optional, to continue the unloved, to agree to the unnecessary and generally live several lives instead of one. Chronically tired people often take responsibility for other people, sin guilty by hypothesis and are called up for organizational roles. They also often take to heart the successes and especially the failures of other people - children, close relatives, the team and partner - try to influence their decisions or take them without demand, wait for gratitude for their initiative and are very careless about personal space. Burnout - the final point of chronic fatigue - a consequence of tangled motivations and missing boundaries. And in order to regain your free time, the opportunity to choose voluntarily, and not under pressure and live your own life, and not the life of the environment, you will have to learn to say "no" and relearn yourself to live according to your own schedule, which is not everyone will like.